Wait Not Want Not

Although
you may have noticed in my last posting, I did not use the word 'love' when referring to DSJ, he is very much that to me.

OH NO, you say!  Don't go there!! Not NOW- not after the relationship fiasco you recently survived!

Ummm, well ok then, I won't 'go there' because I am already HERE. 

And guess what: I have never been 'here' before.  DSJ is my person, so shiny and new and so polar opposite of anyone I've loved before.  No comparison.

Why dare even tread on the edge of that pool you ask, let alone take the plunge? Like we used to say in answer to our kids' constant queries for which we had no answers, I answer, "Because".  Because I can. Because I'm alive now and I may not be tomorrow.  Because he is alive and I'm alive and because we both have outlived our spouses for some reason. Because we are Here.

I posted on my fb page, a link to a  site for the tiny minimalist.  It refers to getting your head to the point where you can be content to live with what you have and not have to have it 'all'.  Along with that is the takeaway that we must remember:

I am living this concept, that there is no time like NOW.  Not because I want or need to have all my wants right now.  No, quite the opposite.  You need to sort out what is really important and work on just that as a need.  Do it NOW.  There may not be a tomorrow for you or for those you love or want to love.

I've been reading quite a lot about relationships for people.  As usual, there is a plethora of advisers for the romantics out here.  Don't do this or that too soon or too much or too too. But the advice all seems to be directed at those who are in their 20's or 30's.  What about the lonely hearts here in Boomerland?  Well, dig deeper and the advice is much different.  I like it too, because its a take charge kind of advice that we need to LIVE our lives and take the risk of loving.

I've been separated from DSJ this past week as he spent 6 days with his brother in Colorado biking on trails near Glenwood Springs.  This separation is/was tough on our fledgling relationship, but so invaluable for our future together.  DSJ is not a phone talker, but man, does he write some great love letters on email!  Not only are those letters going to be kept, but it seals the deal that he too, is a keeper. Be still my beating heart!! :o)

Like I stated to DSJ in one of my letters to him, I have never regretted saying, "I love you" to anyone and I have only regretted NOT saying it when I wanted to but held back.  I think he and I are on the same page now because he understands what it is like to see someone he loved go from life to death in an instant.  Its gonna happen to all of us.  Why not loosen the stops and live and LOVE to the fullest while we are still here?

So I am.  And I will continue to do so.  I do not think I will regret my decision to take DSJ along with me on my wild ride.  Love waits for no one, you know.